We’d like to be married in the church

What is Holy Matrimony?

Holy Matrimony is a Sacrament of Vocation.
Holy Matrimony is Christian marriage, in which a couple enters into a life-long union, makes their vows before God and the Church, and receives the grace and blessing of God to help them fulfill their vows.

Who does Holy Family Marry?

  1. The vocation to Holy Matrimony is available to persons of all gender expressions, identities, and sexual orientations.

  2. One member of the couple is to be a baptized Christian.

  3. All couples must make pre-marital counseling arrangements with Holy Family clergy.

  4. Those desiring to be married must do an initial meeting with Holy Family clergy to:

    1. Set a date on the church calendar.

    2. Discuss the couple’s request to be married.

    3. Answer any questions

    4. Set out the preparation process.

    5. Clarify church teachings regarding Christian marriage.

      1. If either party has been previously divorced, specific requirements of the Church must be met before an Episcopal priest may perform the Blessing and Celebration of a Marriage. This includes submission of a remarriage petition to the bishop. Episcopal canon law requires a minimum of 30 days notice before a wedding can be solemnized.

Do we make up our own wedding liturgy?

Weddings follow the liturgy for The Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage found on page 423 of the 1979 Book of Common Prayer or one of two additional trial liturgies approved at the 78th General Convention of The Episcopal Church.

When are Weddings scheduled?

Marriages are not traditionally celebrated in Advent and in Lent because these are penitential seasons during which times festal liturgies, such as weddings, are not appropriate. Diocesan policy is that weddings during Advent or Lent should only happen in the case of a serious, pressing or compelling pastoral need.

Partner A's Full Legal Name *
Partner A's Full Legal Name
Partner B's Full Legal Name *
Partner B's Full Legal Name
Wedding Coördinator?
Wedding Coördinator?
If you're working with a Wedding Coördinator, what's their name?
Wedding Coördinator?
Wedding Coördinator?
If you're working with a Wedding Coördinator, what's their name?
Wedding Date *
Wedding Date
Wedding Time *
Wedding Time
Wedding Location *
Wedding Location
Incense *
Do you want incense?
Bulletins *
Liturgists *
Please check all that apply. You are responsible for recruiting people for these roles.
First Reading *
Genesis 2:4-9, 15-24 (A man cleaves to his wife and they become one flesh) Song of Solomon 2:10-13; 8:6-7 (Many waters cannot quench love) Tobit 8:5b-8 (New English Bible) (That she and I may grow old together)
Psalm *
Second Reading *
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 (Love is patient and kind) Ephesians 3:14-19 (The Father from whom ever family is named) Ephesians 5:1-2, 21-33 (Walk in love, as Christ loved us) Colossians 3:12-17 (Love which binds everything together in harmony) 1 John 4:7-16 (Let us love one another for love is of God)
Gospel Reading *
Matthew 5:1-10 (The Beatitudes) Matthew 5:13-16 (You are the light...Let your light so shine) Matthew 7:21,24-29 (Like a wise man who built his house upon the rock) Mark 10:6-9,13-16 (They are no longer two but one) John 15:9-12 (Love one another as I have loved you)
Vows *
TRADITIONAL In the Name of God, I, N., take you, N., to be my husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow. CONTEMPORARY In the name of God, I, N., give myself to you, N. I will support and care for you by the grace of God: enduring all things, bearing all things. I will hold and cherish you in the love of Christ: in times of plenty, in times of want. I will honor and love you with the Spirit’s help: forsaking all others, as long as we both shall live. This is my solemn vow. CALL & RESPONSE N., do you freely and unreservedly offer yourself to N.? I do. Will you [continue to] live together in faithfulness and holiness of life as long as you both shall live? I will, with God’s help.
Presenters *
Will you have a loved one(s) "present you" as a couple to seek the blessing of God and the Church on your love and life together?
Rings *
Will you exchange rings?
The Eucharist *
Will there be Communion?